The proverb is never literally true, but is whimsically true when you’re dating in high school and becomes less true the older you get and the more you should expect of yourself and others.When you are young, too much about your core self is malleable, and that’s how it should be.
In my opinion, you should do whatever you want with dating in your twenties, within the bounds of treating people with feelings like you would want yourself to be treated, of course.
We all talk about chemistry or spark, but what is it and by what is it defined?
For some, chemistry means the other person is “cute” or “hot;” for others it may mean they are an intellect and share career interests.
How much time is fair to avoid hurting the other person if you know they are into you, but you don't return the same level of attraction? The answer to these types of questions is difficult, and there are no right or wrong answers.
Some of the best marriages I have ever seen were arranged, and some of the worse relationships I have ever seen consisted of people who had an abundance of spark, but nothing else in common.